Debate Abuse is All They Know

[Teegold]

Yes, we have to..but in a very gentle supportive way. It should not seem like barging into their personal space. These things are very sensitive and have to be handled carefully. Sometimes a good intention is not enough. If it's not coupled with a sensitive handling, it can backfire.

Yes of course. Those people might mistake our good intention for being nosy and invading their privacy, so we should be very careful when we are dealing with them.

 

[arunima25]

Yes of course. Those people might mistake our good intention for being nosy and invading their privacy, so we should be very careful when we are dealing with them.

Yes, they might. And in many cases, they have lost all touch with goodness in the world. And they fail to acknowledge it when it comes to them. They are not ready for it. And in many cases, they might have lost trust in the world. It would be tough to restore that. It's not easy for them or for the person trying to help.

 

[Sara]

It is not easy to come out of a toxic relationship. There are fears, anxiety, and low self-esteem that can prompt fear in them. They want to go but they are afraid of the outcome. They have this mindset that they might meet someone worse than their partner.

 

[arunima25]

@Sara. You have put it very well. Their self esteem is shattered. It's not easy to collect oneself and move on. Moreover, they have lost faith and trust in any relationship. It's hard for them to get into any relationship again or to develop a trust for someone.

 

[King Belieal]

Some people stay in toxic relationships because they don't believe that they can ever find someone like the present abusive person. Inferiority complex is the sponsor to why so many people stay in toxic relationships.

 

[eLdavis]

True that is why I can't really judge people who are in a toxic relationship right now cause we don't really know their full story.

That's right, I have seen some cases like that, it's not like they don't want to leave, it's just that they can leave right now.

 

[Sara]

@Sara. You have put it very well. Their self esteem is shattered. It's not easy to collect oneself and move on. Moreover, they have lost faith and trust in any relationship. It's hard for them to get into any relationship again or to develop a trust for someone.

Losing faith in oneself and lacking trust in relationship has done more harm than good to people who come out of a toxic relationship. I don't blame them but I always feel for them because it will be hard to start developing trust and the worst of it is low self-esteem.

 

[eLdavis]

Losing faith in oneself and lacking trust in relationship has done more harm than good to people who come out of a toxic relationship. I don't blame them but I always feel for them because it will be hard to start developing trust and the worst of it is low self-esteem.

Low self esteem is actually one of the major reasons why most people are suffering.

 

[Sara]

Low self esteem is actually one of the major reasons why most people are suffering.

I suffered that and I know what it means. Mine wasn't due to abuse in a relationship. I was talked down while growing up and I don't have that skin which you can see and like because my skin colour is dark and people talk down on me saying that I am not beautiful. It became a war that I later scale through from and it wasn't easy at all.

 

[arunima25]

@Sara You have made a valid point with your example. Childhood is a very sensitive period. Even little remarks and situations in the environment around can have a deep impact on our psychology and self esteem. Every adult carries an impact of the childhood he has been through. It gets tough to recover it later and we need to put a lot of conscious effort.

 

[eLdavis]

I suffered that and I know what it means. Mine wasn't due to abuse in a relationship. I was talked down while growing up and I don't have that skin which you can see and like because my skin colour is dark and people talk down on me saying that I am not beautiful. It became a war that I later scale through from and it wasn't easy at all.

I also have a similar issue, but in my case I don't really know how or when it started. I always tend to feel am not good enough, or I can never really get what I want or who I want because I was not confident in myself and my ability.

 

[arunima25]

@eLdavis . I am sure that you are not the only one. Many of us here would relate to that. Some words from teachers, parents, peers, adults around...can hurt us so deep and make us develop a self doubt. It impacts our confidence badly. And we carry it for longer than we expect it to be there

 

[Sara]

I also have a similar issue, but in my case I don't really know how or when it started. I always tend to feel am not good enough, or I can never really get what I want or who I want because I was not confident in myself and my ability.

I am reading this now and remembering my life. It seems as if you won't amount to anything. You see yourself as nothing and you can't achieve anything you want or you desired. Thanks for friends that surround me and start helping me to get back my self esteem.

 

[arunima25]

I am reading this now and remembering my life. It seems as if you won't amount to anything. You see yourself as nothing and you can't achieve anything you want or you desired. Thanks for friends that surround me and start helping me to get back my self esteem.

You are fortunate to have such wonderful friends. I am happy for you. If you find someone who wins your trust and shows his full trust and faith in you, you heal and recover from earlier experiences. They help you blossom.

 

[eLdavis]

I am reading this now and remembering my life. It seems as if you won't amount to anything. You see yourself as nothing and you can't achieve anything you want or you desired. Thanks for friends that surround me and start helping me to get back my self esteem.

Yes, even myself I am now working more on myself, taking note of my weakness ans working hard to ensure i can overcome them and be better than I am right now.

 

[Sara]

You are fortunate to have such wonderful friends. I am happy for you. If you find someone who wins your trust and shows his full trust and faith in you, you heal and recover from earlier experiences. They help you blossom.

I have gratitude to God and to them. They really did a great job in my life. I am holding them so tight, they might not know the heaviness of what they did to me but I am glad I have them. I am using the same medium to help children so that they won't grow up like me.

 

[eLdavis]

I have gratitude to God and to them. They really did a great job in my life. I am holding them so tight, they might not know the heaviness of what they did to me but I am glad I have them. I am using the same medium to help children so that they won't grow up like me.

Nice one, having wonderful friends is never an easy task. These days it is becoming extremely hard to find good friends out there, hence whenever we come across one, we need to hold them really well.

 

[King Belieal]

I have said it before and I would say it again, if a relationship is abusive, you have to walk out and don't think about it. The victims are always the cause of the abuse they suffer because they have a choice to walk out.

 

[Sara]

I have said it before and I would say it again, if a relationship is abusive, you have to walk out and don't think about it. The victims are always the cause of the abuse they suffer because they have a choice to walk out.

The choice to walk out isn't that easy. I have see countless people saying that they don't know how to move. They are just clued at one spot and hoping that miracle will happen to their abusers.

Nice one, having wonderful friends is never an easy task. These days it is becoming extremely hard to find good friends out there, hence whenever we come across one, we need to hold them really well.

Real friends doesn't mind how and what you are . They are there in order to help you grow and do things together. They will help you in times of pains and sorrows, rejoicing when the time is good. I cherished my friendship with all my heart.

 

[Teegold]

Nice one, having wonderful friends is never an easy task. These days it is becoming extremely hard to find good friends out there, hence whenever we come across one, we need to hold them really well.

Indeed, we need to hold unto our trusted friends. I've lost some good friends because of my terrible attitude, but I will not let that mistake repeat itself.